Are you an anxiously attached man?
Twelve honest questions on the overthinking, the re-reading, the reassurance, and the going quiet. Answer how true each is for you, generally, in close relationships. You get your result on this page, no email required.
Your three sharpest edges
Catch the Spiral
A free 4-page guide to the one move that puts a gap between the feeling and the text you are about to send. It is a real piece of the method, not a teaser.
Get the free guideThe Anxiously Attached Man
The 45-page workbook this self-check is drawn from. The mechanism, the spiral, the resets, and a 30-day set of structured reps. $6 USD, one payment.
See the workbook →This is a self-reflection tool for personal and educational use. It is a mirror, not a diagnosis, and not a substitute for professional mental health care. If a strong pattern is costing you a lot, pairing this work with a good therapist helps more. See not-therapy for the honest line and crisis resources.
Whatever you scored, start here.
Anxious Attachment in Men: The Complete Guide
The mechanism, the surface behaviours, and the two-layer model for changing it.
The patternProtest Behaviour in Men
The male-coded version: jealousy, over-texting, testing, withdrawing, and what to do in step two.
The how-toHow to Heal Anxious Attachment as a Man
The do-this-next version: the 90-second wave, the pause protocol, the resets, the rebuild.